Are You Trying Too Hard to Feel Happier?

Whatever we're doing in life, most of the time, we just want to feel happier. Whether it's getting the bigger house, the better job or the perfect relationship, we want to feel happy.

Yet how many of us have fallen into the trap of trying, over and over again, to make something work?

Whether it's a relationship, a project, a job interview or even assembling flat-pack furniture, we fall back on the old proverb:

" If at first you do not succeed, try, try, try again. "

There are two problems here:

  1. Going Slightly Mad: They say that doing the same thing over and over again, while expecting different results, is the one of the first signs of insanity. For most of us, "try, try, try again" involves just that …
  2. "Trying" Gets Us Off The Hook: When we use the word "try" – either out loud or in our heads – we're giving ourselves unconsistent permission to fail.

Think about it:

" I'll try to get that done by Tuesday. " Will it happen?

" I'll try harder to get it right next time. " Will it be different?

What Not To Do

This is not the time to give up or admit defeat. Just because your current approach has not been working does not mean there is not one that will bring the results you're hiring for. It's also not about focussing on what's been going wrong or worrying about it. It has been said that worry is just a great way of creating a future you do not really want …
What You Can Do Instead

Do something different. If what you're doing is not working, play with another approach. Look back to similar situations in the past where you have made it work and see if there are ideas you could apply now.

Focus on what you want instead , rather than where you are now. Start telling a different story. Breaking the cycle could turn things around.

And instead of the word " try ", how about more positive phrases like "I will …" or "I can …" or – if you're not quite sure – "I hope …"

Above all, if you do not think you can, you can not and you will not.

If it's worth doing, then "trying" is less likely to get you there. How about rewriting the old proverb:

" If at first you do not succeed, change what you're doing. "

Bottom Line:

Instead of trying too hard, over and over again, how about tweaking your strategy and watching how fast you get to where you want to be going? Are you ready to make changes?

Source by Clare Josa

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